Tuesday 30 June 2015

Your Moment of Truth





How do we know if we are living the life that we came here to experience? This is not something that you can answer with your brain. The mind will make up all sorts of stories, but it is definitely something that you do know in your heart.

The key is to quiet the mind for long enough to hear the truth of your soul, that ancient, infinite, consistent part of you, which has been your essence since the beginning. Some like to call it the Higher Self, and this term resonates with me. I believe it is the spiritual part of us that is never ending and wise beyond measure. the part of us that is always connected to Source and knows all the answers. The part we can trust, that will never let us down.

When making important decisions or life choices, how do we know what to do? There is a 'fork in the road' - which is the correct path for us? Should we toss a coin? What if we ask our Higher Self? What if the choice has already been made for us, and we just need to 'remember' or step into it. How do we know?



Trust your feelings as a barometer of truth, your trusty inner compass. Compare the choices in front of you but not with your mind. See yourself making the first choice. FEEL what it is like to be living that choice and note the emotion attached to it. Is is a positive or negative feeling? Then imagine yourself living the life of the other option, and FEEL how that sits with you, the emotion it evokes.

Both choices may feel 'good' but only one will feel 'right'. Don't second guess yourself. Nobody knows better than you. Trust your guidance.your instincts will never let you down.

Now of course 'knowing' is just the beginning. Even if you trust your feelings, nothing will change unless you take action. You must step into your Truth! It may feel like a leap of faith, but don't worry. No one ever feels  prepared for momentous change. And know this - the bigger the need to pursue this path, and the greater your soul purpose is, the more your ego will try to talk you out of it! The ego does not like change, and doesn't even want you to succeed. It will throw up doubt and fear and judgment and a host of curly questions.

Try to recognize this chatter in your head for what it is. Allow it to pass by and don't buy into it. Keep sinking into your heart space. Be still and hear your wise old soul. It's message will be positive, clear and repetitive.



You will learn to love and trust your Higher self. You will find more strength and beauty there than you ever imagined. This is a journey of the inner world. A connection with yourself that you may have denied or perhaps even feared. But only love and truth exists there.

Communing with your higher wisdom always brings you into the present moment, the here and now of this very existence. And the present moment is the only place where we can experience love and healing. It is all we have and we must cherish it.

There is nothing to fear about learning to love and trust yourself more. In fact it may open up a whole new world for you. You may learn a lot about what 'makes you tick', find a new sense of purpose, or even accept yourself fully for the first time ever! It's a great feeling, as if all the pieces have fallen into place. A new sense of pride and belonging, that is very nurturing. Criticism and judgment fall away, and self belief flourishes. you are ready to do what you want, what you NEED in fact! You can let go of all the conditioning, and surpass the 'shoulds' and musts' you have accumulated along the way.



You know now that it is only right when it FEELS right. Intuition can be very powerful. We have all heard stories of it saving lives. So trust your instinct, your gut feeling. It can be accurate guidance about the path ahead. Tune in to it often and it will become even clearer. Your stress melts away as you connect with this 'knowing'. It brings you to a warm and fuzzy place where you feel strong, and you feel LOVED. The outside world stands still, just for a moment - this moment, your moment, the moment of Truth.




Wednesday 17 June 2015

HEALTHY CHOICES

 Carol's top tips for Healthy Living

There are so many wise and beneficial choices we can make to improve our quality of life! So many tips I wish to share. It's difficult for me to choose, but here are my top 10 as they appear to me today. I hope they will help you . . . 


Carol's Healthy Choices tip #1: BREATHE DEEPLY

You may be shallow breathing most of the time and not even know it.
Consider the benefits of drawing air deeply into your lungs . .

Each day, sit or stand comfortably and rest your hands between your ribs and your navel. Engage your diaphragm by breathing deeply . . feel your tummy rise under your hands as you inhale, and sink back in as you exhale. Breathe in for the count of 3 and out for the count of 6. Repeat 5 times in a row, and try this before each meal and before bed.

Not only will you increase your oxygen uptake and reduce secretions in the base of your lungs . . this creates stress relief and body awareness, making you more mindful and heart connected, getting out of the head and being more compassionate to self :)

 
Carol's Healthy Choices tip #2: DRINK LOTS of WATER

The benefits are numerous. Many people who feel unwell are chronically dehydrated, which majorly impacts health. All body systems function better with adequate water intake - you will notice improvement in skin, digestion, energy levels etc.

How much is enough? My rule of thumb is 30mls per kg body weight each day . . this equates to a mug full of water (300mls) for each 10kg of your weight.
Try starting the day with a warm water and the juice of 1/2 a lemon. Drink water between meals . . drinking with meals is counter-productive as it dilutes the stomach acid that is required to adequately digest food.

Water helps flush toxins through the body, has zero calories, and acts as an appetite suppressant - if you feel like snacking, drink a glass of water and wait 20 minutes - sometimes that's what the body was craving.

Drink clean water - what does this mean? Consider the age of your water pipes and the impurities like heavy metals that may be in the water supply. Read up on various filters and what they remove. Decide whether you want fluoride in your water or not (not for me!) Spring water may be the best choice, in terms of purity and helpful mineral content.

So don't just drink water when you are thirsty, it deserves your regular attention. Make your body happy . . Cheers



Carol's Healthy Choices tip #3: WALK EVERY DAY

Put on your comfy shoes and get moving! A 30 minute brisk walk is best and yes 10,000 steps per day is ideal, but any movement you can do is helpful. Some of those winter aches and pains may be due to inactivity . . our joints are lubricated by fluid but need motion to facilitate this.

The Lymph system is like our sewerage system, and unlike the blood, it doesn't have it's own pump, so when we are idle toxins are stagnant . . cold hands and feet are often a sign of acid waste stored in the extremities. Walking helps move them out of the body
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In fact, walking has endless benefits. It aids digestion, lifts the mood, strengthens the bones, and if connecting to nature at the same time, warms the heart! It's rhythmical nature can be quite meditative, quieting the mind to relieve stress and allow insights to come in. Or you may like to walk with a friend or in a group.

Make walking a regular habit. Start with 10 minutes around the block if that's all you can manage. Add more incidental walking into your day as well . . walk to post that letter or purchase the newspaper. Park further from the shops or the school.

Do this regularly and watch your life change. Have you had your walk today?





Carol's Healthy Choices tip #4: EAT REAL FOOD

All too often today, we are eating for all the wrong reasons - taste, convenience, cost, comfort. Modern food is high in sugar, salt and fat and very addictive, and there is no denying a strong link to the epidemic of chronic diseases we now face. We are over fed and under nourished!

Nutrition is the bedrock of health, so eat cleanly. Choose whole foods that have been nourished by the sun and untouched by man. Eat like a hunter/gatherer: Meat, fish, chicken, fruits, vegetables, nuts and seeds, with a variety of color on your plate, and especially lots of leafy greens.

Educate yourself about healthy fats, and minimize your consumption of sugar and refined starch. Avoiding 'white' foods is also a good rule of thumb.

Labels are confusing but look at the ingredient list, and be more aware of what you consume. Move away from processed foods and don't believe marketing or advertising which has a hidden agenda. Limit your intake of additives, preservatives, flavoring etc and trust Mother Nature, not what comes out of a laboratory.

Don't buy it! If it's not in the pantry you can't be tempted. Crowd out the bad stuff by eating lots of tasty real food. Pack your fridge with fresh and colorful options. You don't have to deprive yourself.

Eat well and your body will reward you - with more energy, vitality and mental clarity.




Carol's Healthy Choices tip #5: QUIET THE MIND

Our thoughts can cause us a lot of stress . . they keep us in the past or the future. The mind can run away, one thought becomes another, and another! We go round in circles replaying stories, often based on old beliefs or patterns of behavior that no longer serve us. Mindfulness brings us to the present moment, living in and fully experiencing the now, which after all, is all we have. The present is the only place we can experience happiness and healing.

We cannot stop the thoughts, we don't need to . . but we can learn to step back and observe them, to get out of the head and be more heart centered. When we connect our heart with our mind, our thoughts become more positive and gratitude filled. 

You may want see your thoughts as leaves on a stream floating by, or maybe words on a conveyor belt. I like to visualize the mind (or ego) sinking down into the heart to have a pow wow with the soul, learning from the wisdom there and taking it back to the head, to integrate head and heart. Often, fear and pain dissolve as love and joy take their place, so it is not so much about what you gain but what you lose!

Meditation is not about 'blanking off' but allowing ourselves to just BE . . as we are calm and objective, insights may come. You can have a special place which is your sacred space, or just close your eyes and explore your inner world. You may like to light candles or play soothing music, but even the shortest retreat from the busy-ness of your day with a few deep breaths and a smile, is very beneficial.

 
Carol's Healthy Choices tip #6: FORGIVE EVERYONE EVERYTHING

I like to call this Radical Forgiveness! You see, if you are willing to forgive but still feel the need to condemn, then nothing will change! You are in a 'victim consciousness' when you maintain a belief that someone else has done something bad to you, and as a result they are responsible for the lack of peace and happiness in your life.

When we take responsibility for our choices ie how we respond to situations and events in our life, we can forgive without the need to blame . . then everything changes.

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It does not condone what may have happened or mean you have to keep company with the person/s involved. You simply choose to let go of any toxic energy of anger and resentment you are holding in your body, and unburdening will be of great benefit to your health and happiness.

Try it . . it feels a whole lot better :)



Carol's Healthy Choices tip #7: REDUCE your TOXIC LOAD

What does DETOX mean to you? There are many toxic aspects to modern life and we can approach it from different angles. Today in our world we are exposed to thousands of man made chemicals that the body was not designed to deal with. We ingest, inhale and absorb them every day . . surely we have to learn to stop putting them into our bodies!!

Most people are aware of choices we have with food now, to steer away from commercially made and advertised convenience foods that are highly processed and full of nasty additives in order prolong shelf life and keep profits high. But have you thought about your home care and personal care products?

The average woman is exposed to over 100 chemicals before she leaves home in the morning . . but the good news is that most of the toxins we are exposed to every day, are in our homes - brought in by us!! So when you know this you have a choice. You can research and support responsible companies - who are doing the right thing by you and the planet - avoiding a barrage of harmful chemicals that are endocrine disruptive (affect our hormones), carcinogenic (cancer causing) or neuro-toxic (damage the brain and central nervous system). These chemicals occur frequently in commercial washing powder, air freshener, toothpaste, shampoo and body wash (even the ones we bath our babies in!), moisturizers, skin care and cosmetics etc etc 

When we are loading the body with these foreign substances, we are asking it to continually 'put out fires' instead of being able to repair and rejuvenate. We may or may not get sick, but we certainly won't feel well, energetic and vital! So learn how to create a healthy home and your body will breathe a sigh of relief. Your blood will be cleaner, your lungs will be clearer and your liver with thank you as it won't keep getting clogged every day.

Of course, thoughts and emotions can be toxic too . . so stay positive, and I will make STRESS another topic for another day.



  Carol's Healthy Choices tip #8: MANAGE YOUR STRESS

We all experience stress in different ways every day. A little bit can keep us motivated and on the ball, but in today's world we are often on overload which is exhausting! When cortisol levels are high, our general health is adversely affected.

Be aware that stress is not so much about what is going on in your world, but rather how you respond to it. If you’re feeling stressed on an every day basis, you could find that it is having an impact on your body too.

I'm sure you know best what works for you, but here are some ideas to choose from:

Stillness - find a few moments here and there to just 'be'.
Deep breathing - focus on the movement of the chest.
Relaxation - notice any tension in different muscle groups and release.
Gardening - connects us with nature and is very grounding.
Exercise - walking, cycling, swimming, what ever suits you.
Community - connect regularly with like-hearted people.
Smile - even if you don't feel happy you can trick your body into releasing endorphins.
Hugs - we all need these every day. Give and receive hugs freely.
Be Grateful - be thankful for what you have. Gratitude really raises our vibration.
Yoga - works on body, mind and spirit. Outdoors if possible.
Mindfulness - give your full attention to the here and now. Don't get ahead of yourself or dwell in the past.
Aromatherapy - pure essential oils have an immediate effect on the brain. They bypass the intellect and work on the subconscious.
Meditation - in any shape or form , alone or in a group, silent or guided. Huge health benefits.
Affirmations - positive messages you tell yourself until you believe them :)

  Carol's Healthy Choices tip #9: HEAL YOUR GUT 


Have you heard of Leaky Gut Syndrome? This funny term is the common name for a very common problem, increased intestinal permeability, which is now known to underpin many modern day health issues like allergies, eczema, asthma and autoimmune disorders.

There are thousands of research papers on LGS, explaining how when the intestinal mucosa is damaged (eg by repeated antibiotics) – undigested food particles and disease causing micro-organisms etc can breach the gut lining and pass into the bloodstream, triggering the white blood cells. (This is very evident on live blood analysis! Speak to me if you would like to be tested.) This situation results in intestinal inflammation and nutritional malabsorption, many skin problems and eventually auto-immune disease. Leaky Gut has also been found to contribute to liver disease and depression.

Gut dysbiosis is an overgrowth of the harmful bacteria, so we have to make sure that they are out numbered by the beneficial ones! A prebiotic diet is important – whole foods which encourage the proliferation of a host of healthy bacteria, and intact gut lining. As gut integrity is also adversely affected by so many things - unhealthy diet (abundance of processed foods), excessive alcohol, environmental contaminants like heavy metals, repeated use of inflammatory medications, and even prolonged stress - quality probiotic supplements can also be of great benefit in restoring balance. They certainly work for me :)

A healthy gut lining and abundance of beneficial gut bacteria is crucial to boost the immune system and can prevent a host of health concerns, improve blood sugar control, lower LDL cholesterol and fight off infections.

Let your digestion guide you. Be aware of your bowel habits and whether they are ideal. Do you suffer any digestive upset - bloating, discomfort, reflux, constipation or diarrhea? None of this is 'normal' and may be simply addressed by diet and lifestyle choices, with massive ongoing benefits.



 Carol's Healthy Choices tip #10: HONOUR YOUR EMOTIONS

Your feelings are valid just because they are yours! No need to apologize or explain, just be true to yourself. Acknowledge that your emotions are a compass for your life, inner guidance about how you are treating yourself. Be responsible. Learn to manage your feelings and understand what you are doing to cause them . . we can all do better when we follow our heart and are less attached to our thoughts. If you are a sensitive individual, you will feel deeply . . for yourself and others. Perhaps your feelings are the universe speaking to you through your body and mind. Be willing to tune into your feelings, let go of judgment and embrace them with kindness.

All of our thoughts, perceptions, memories and feelings influence every cell in our body, and if ongoing can manifest in various health issues. Repressing our emotions will prevent the stream of life from flowing in a productive manner. Learn to recognize your emotions as an important inner guidance system, letting you know if you are living in an environment of biochemical health or distress.

Do you ever allow yourself to cry? Tears can free us from pent up emotion and prepare our bodies for fruitful new beginnings. Tears are not a sign of weakness . . when honored they can even make us stronger and deepen our sense of self worth. It has been said 'Without rain there is no life. Without tears there can be no healing.' Healing does not take place until we surrender to our feelings. So embrace your emotions and allow the tears to flow as a healthy way to cleanse the soul of pain, grief, fear and longing. This offers the chance to recharge our batteries and restore a sense of balance in our lives.


Please pursue health and happiness as though your life depends on it . . . because it really does!!
                                                                                                       
                                                                                                    - Carol Kretschmer




Wednesday 3 June 2015

My Life with M.E.

On a sunny weekend in January 2003, my life suddenly changed for ever, when I contracted an illness called Myalgic Encephalomyelitis that seemed to have no end!

This was also a 'List of Current Symptoms' that I collated more than 5 years later, in June 2008:

- Constant unrelenting headache, pressure and throbbing. Varies only in intensity.

- Limited energy reserves, needing frequent rests, lying down or sitting.

- Post exertion fatigue, both mental and physical, therefore extremely limited activity level.

- Sleep - still require a lot, 10 hours+, and do not feel benefit on waking. Some nights very hard to get to sleep, or waking many times.

- Sore eyes, a feature from the beginning. Worse when more tired but persistent.

- Nausea -  because of pain, or a Gastrointestinal symptom? Also irritable bowel habit.

- Aching in the back. Frequent 'tired soreness' - needing to sit or lie.

- General malaise - feel unwell all the time, like getting the 'flu.

- Sensitivity to light and noise, always.

- Impaired memory, especially short term. Difficulty concentrating and often with finding the right words, which feels slow.

- Recurrent sore throat, when at my worst.

- Intolerance of temperature changes, plus night sweats and occasional hot flushes.

- Palpitations and dizziness - more severe earlier on.

I have also recently found some personal notes that I made about how I was feeling -
I am going to share them with you here, but let me preface this with letting you know that there is a happy end to the story. Looking back, I could not see any way out of the long dark tunnel, but I did get there, and I am now delighted to be able to help others who are stuck like I was!

On May 20th 2008, this is what I wrote . . .

"I have had to abandon my career, but I will not give up on the JOY of life!
This condition can take away so much - independence, career, mobility, cognitive function etc
It's important to hang on to what we have - especially when it's a loving and supportive relationship.

It is such a burden living as the 'sick' family member. It makes me feel guilty and sad. I know it is difficult for others to understand how I can be so sick without showing any outward physical signs.
In public I wear my 'happy face'. No one else sees the real me, struggling with this demon that has invaded my body.

My quest for a cure has led me to too many tests and drugs and lifestyle changes and years of disappointments. I am starting to distrust the medical profession and at times feel quite hopeless. I have given up so much, and every minute of every day seems to revolve around my illness. I have forgotten what it was like to wake up and simply live my life.

My husband is the one person who truly knows how sick I have become. His encouragement, patience and support are a great blessing and keep me going forward. my friends don't understand my struggle, but I am just trying to survive.

This interminable pain in my head blocks my thinking and saps my energy. It is so intrusive in my daily life. I have to realise that there may never be a cure for this problem, and that it might never go away. It makes me feel very isolated, as if no one knows what I am going through. My career, my personal life and my financial life are all in tatters.

Much of my suffering stems not just from the symptoms of the illness, but from the continuous roller coaster of frustration, shame and havoc that it has created in so many areas.

Everything is now a challenge, from completing the most routine chore, to making plans with friends and keeping them! I am always in conflict about 'pushing through' or should I just 'give in'? My old self is gone and I have not quite figured out how to piece together a new one to replace it.

Headache pain, like all pain inhibits productivity. But unrelenting pain like this, felt in the brain - at the core of one's being, has the additional challenge of interfering with how you think.
I have no energy to deal with the unpredictable. The headache is all I can handle.
I worry that it is imprinted in my Central Nervous System, never to be erased.
On rare 'better' days, I naturally do more. worse pain and fatigue will follow the next day or even longer.

Sometimes when I find myself acting 'normally' and having a good time with friends, a cloud of dread will suddenly envelop me. There is a price for everything, how much will I pay for this?

With my illness, there is such a blocking of energy. There are many components. Besides the pain, there is always a sense of heaviness that I am pushing through - to think, and to exercise, to do anything.

Perhaps I need to turn to Buddhism, where pain and suffering are an accepted part of life, and strive for Inner Peace?"

Fortunately, things did start to turn around for me soon after this time. The right people started to come into my life and show me the way forward. I began to recognise what needed to change, and I took responsibility for myself.

Three years later, I attended a workshop. We meditated and then I wrote the following question and answer:

"How Did I Heal?

I started at a place that felt like rock bottom. I thought I was going to die, and that it would be a relief to die! This frightened me and gave me the impetus to go on, to not give up, to find the answers.
Conventional medicine was not the answer, the answer lay inside of ME.

I learned about the mind-body connection, how what I think determines what I feel. I learned to FORGIVE and what a great gift this is. I learned to get in touch with my higher self, and that when I am quiet in body and mind, I find clarity and peace. I learned that spirituality is the essence of life. I learned to be a warm hearted person, and I learned to keep learning.

I learned that everyone does the best they can with what they have at any given moment. I learned that I don't have to control, in fact it is best to surrender.

I learned that life is simple, only we complicate it.

I learned to be grateful for every moment, every experience.

I learned to be ME."

True Healing begins when we stop looking outside of ourselves. It is about letting go of the need for a cure and allowing the body to repair from the inside out. Hence the name of my practice 'Healing from Within'. Lots more on this in later blog posts . . .